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Today is my 26th Wedding Anniversary. Life has changed a lot since that very warm summer evening by my parents’ pool. My father married us. It was a delightful memory despite the fact the camera broke, and we have not one wedding picture! Fortunately, we have the memories stored elsewhere.

I know my husband and I have had our ups and downs over the years as we each have tried to deal with our own baggage, the other’s baggage, and our new baggage together. Despite it being a second marriage for both of us, we were still young. I brought a Special Needs pre-schooler with me, too, to make my husband an instant Daddy. We then had our own son within two years who was also Special Needs. We sure gave ourselves a lot of changes to deal with in those early years. We stuck with it through good and bad asking God to be our glue.

We had our share of arguments, pain, and bad decisions in all areas from finances to parenting. We also had our good moments, too. We finally learned to let God guide us financially, and He helped us to learn to save and more importantly, put priorities in order, and that doing without can be a time of riches, too. We had our times of teachable moments at home playing games with our children, Little League followed by soccer and even taking the helm and passing on our view of true sportsmanship through coaching. We had our years of helping to guide our children and others through Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts again taking the helm at those leadership positions allowing us to take our children on grand adventures filled with great teaching moments. Through all of this, we also protected our children from the outside world as much as we could.

Of course, we also learned that you can’t save your children from everything. We and our children have faced tragedy, heartache, and consequences of bad decisions. All you can do is learn to keep your focus on God, and let Him turn what was meant to destroy into good. That is what we have tried to do and have tried to teach our children to do. We can only pray and know that God only has plans to prosper us and bless us.

The children have both left the home now. It seems a bit big and quiet except for our three four-legged babies who keep us well-loved. We now have a different chapter to write as we make new memories. I am looking forward to that now even more than I used to do.

As far as memories, yes, we have some bad ones. Some may say a lot of bad ones including ones that scarred us for life. We also have good memories. I think we have a lot of good memories, too. I am choosing to focus on the good ones now that lessons have been learned from the bad ones. I am choosing to focus on the good ones, and let the bad ones fade. Yes, we have a lot of good ones, and we did a lot of good for our family and others. I am choosing to let God handle the rest. We have had 26 years filled with good memories of board games and rolling in the grass in the yard, ball games, hikes, rock climbs, camp fires, laughs at Disney, quiet days in the sun at Cumberland, big smiles and squeals of delight at unexpected Christmas and birthday gifts, and more. All of this is our legacy of the first quarter of our lives together. I don’t know what the second quarter will hold, but I know there will be good, and there will even be bad. Such is life. Let us go together allowing God to hold us close knowing He will give us blessings through it all.

Happy Anniversary, Scott. Now, more than ever, I can say I love you because through God and you, I have learned how to love. I love you!!

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